It is not always easy to become the perfect mother though we keep trying all the time. Obviously, every great mom takes care of her children, takes care of their children’s basic emotional and physical requirements. However, today, we live in such a society where motherhood is a great challenge to women. The women in our society want to be a good mother and a role model to their children.
Though motherhood is a very hard and stressful thing, almost all women desire to experience it in their life and they would go to any extent to keep their children happy. Every woman wants her child to be the perfect one, someone who is adept at all fields of life. Women are ready to do everything they can possibly do to be the best mother to their baby. They wait and anticipate numerous months and days for the arrival of the baby and finally when the day arrives, women forget their own existence. They possess the child and try real hard to make the kid the apple of their eye.
Modern mothers are no different from their older generation. Even today, mothers sit sleepless nights for their babies. They think that their sons or daughters deserve the best. They think how to give their children shiny boots, quality toys and cute hats so that they look admirable. Children become mother’s priority and to keep their children happy, the mothers work very hard, sometimes even at night. Modern moms can cook and clean as a part of their household work even after working at the office for eight hours each day. Even if they are exhausted they do not feel any problem to sleep on a sofa to give their children a good bed for sleeping.
The typical Indian and Indian-Canadian mothers portray the image of a perfect mother. They are doting and loving stay-at-home mothers who are a good cook as well as a good housekeeper. The responsibilities for children are placed entirely on their shoulders which they carry out in a commendable manner. On the other hand, they are accused when something goes wrong with the children. Therefore, they take many responsibilities to be a perfect mother but are often treated as a not so perfect mother.
You will come across so many Indian and Indian-Canadian mothers who are considered as the perfect symbol of sacrifice and devotion. They spend huge amount of time and energy towards their children but when their babies under-perform at schools and misbehave, it is criticized that it must be their mother’s fault. Such mothers bear every criticism inflicted upon them by the society without saying a single word.
Most moms contribute and sacrifice a lot of things to raise a child which is no secret throughout the world. Father’s around the world have accepted that a mother’s contribution in a child’s life is tremendous. However, the problem lies when most Indian and Indian-Canadian mothers want to be the best mother in the entire world. They have different ideas about what being perfect is. These mothers understand their child uniquely and they think that they know their children better that anybody else.
You can make out such mothers in your daily life by watching them bestow affection on their children at malls, schools, outside restaurants and even on roads. Such mothers stick to their children and think about doing nice thoughtful things all the time. Perfect mothers are polite to their children and they want their children to know how much they love them regardless of their personal issues.
The typical Indian mother knows how to handle the difficult challenges of motherhood. They are patient with their children and would go to any length to take interest in their children’s life. They put in their best efforts to fulfill most of the demands of their children and they always try very hard to understand their children and be good listeners to them. You can even find such mothers apologizing to their children whenever they unintentionally commit any silly mistake that hurts their babies. It is obvious from these moments that such mothers love their kids more than their own lives.
However, being a perfect mother can backfire as most women tend to realize later in their life. If you try to engage too much in your child’s life then your child starts depending on you for every little decision in their life. The Indian and Indian-Canadian women consider that being a perfect mother is essential for the child’s optimum growth. However, in reality, a child can do very well with a lesser amount of love. Today, Indian and Indian-Canadian mothers spend most of their life raising their children ignoring their own desire and career. Their highest ambition in life is to establish their children. So, they miss out on various opportunities in their daily life and that can definitely not be a good thing to do.
As life goes, one cannot predict the future. Most mothers who try real hard to make their children good soon realize that their children have treaded the wrong path or they have reacted aggressively due to the excessive affection showered on them. Therefore, if you give unnecessary affection to your kids and try to become a perfect mother, it may actually damage your child and turn him away from you. Whenever a child lacks mannerisms or commits any mistake, the blame is mostly put on the mothers so inadvertently you are the one who would be ultimately blamed for any misconduct of your child.
Besides, many women have high ambitions regarding their career and they want to excel in life. However, after their marriage when they conceive a baby, their only aim in life is to make their baby happy and get their children established in life. Such women forget about their own life and career which is really not required to raise a child. Balancing your child’s life along with yours is not a hard task to do. You can devote lesser time to your children and stop being a perfect mother to make both your child and yourself happy. Start spending some time for yourself and do what you like to do best. You will still be a good mother and it wouldn’t lessen your affection towards your children.
To become a perfect mother, mothers often get rid of all sorts of entertainment in their lives and they unnecessarily put their children before themselves each time. However, there are many negative effects of being a perfect mother. Many mothers spoil their kids’ life by trying to become a flawless mother as it becomes impossible for the children to live up to the image of their mother. Mothers should keep in mind that babies are like clay, they are shaped the way their mothers mend them. Children look at the actions of their mother and see through empty words very quickly. Thus is it advisable that women should try to restrain themselves to being a good mother instead of trying to become the perfect mother.
A good mother is more important and effective than a perfect mother. A good mother ignores the conception that motherhood requires hard work. They pledge to leave their children alone and they read out fantastic stories and poems to their children without forgetting their own dreams and aspirations. They show their creative skills to their loving kids and they never pamper their children’s life with too much affection. Whether you are a father or a mother, you should always try to be naturally good to your children and not go beyond your comfort level to keep your children happy. Start being a good mother today and watch your children soar.