James was born to two lovely people for Parents, they both loved him tremendously, but not each other. They separated early after he was born. They stop loving each other, but not James. They showered him with love and affluence all his life, never teaching him responsibility and respect for relationships. Even though separated his Father spent time with him, and for his lack of parenting he showered him with all he needed and didn’t. However he did not teach him the things he needed to know about being a Man, a Husband and a Parent. The same was true of the Mother, he was the Apple of her eyes, a reminder of what a handsome Man his Father is, the first and only Love of her life. I imagined the child was a Shrine of her love for his Father.
With all this Love and pampering neither took the time to teach the child the things that are most important in life, and in a relationship, honesty, trust and faithfulness. As the child grew up started in Junior High he matured into a Player of great magnitude. He knew he was good looking and possessed great conversational skills, and he used his gifts to shatter young Girl’s Heart. In High School he was a Lady Killer he would pull them in with his charm, chew them up and spit them out one after the other after the other. If this Boy chose to be a Pimp he would have been the most successful Pimp ever. In retrospect he was a Chip of the old block, that’s why his Father left he and his Mother in such a short while, he was too good for one Woman. Be careful of how you live your lives your Kids are watching, you are sowing the seeds of unfaithfulness unwittingly and all the bad traits you possess they soak them up like a Sponge, and indent them into their own lives.
You teach them all the things they need to know to be successful in life, why not relationships. All through his life he was given everything his Heart desired as an only Child, now all grown up he equates women to things. It’s an absolute tragedy in Parenting, you teach your Children everything they need to know to progress into adulthood, except Relationships, how sad. I neglected to mention that in Athletic James was awesome, he excelled in Football, Soccer and Track and Field. When we were nineteen we had a match Race we covered the hundred yard dash in fifteen seconds. One do not need to wonder if he was great in Bed. The tragedy for me was when he Married a childhood friend of mine. Lisa was the most loving trusting person in the World she did not deserve this. One of the hardest things I have done in my life was to keep my mouth shut before the Wedding took place. They were both my friends, it tore me apart staying neutral. If I am not mistaken he started cheating on her while she was Pregnant, with the only Child he gave her. The cycle continued the only child of an only Child. Needless for me to say the Marriage was slated for disaster and failure, while the second only child soaked up all the ugliness, from the fallouts of a man who was not a Travelling Salesman, but would be missing for a whole week. I do not know how the Marriage lasted six years without someone getting killed. Within that period he accumulated a string of women in every State including Canada. All my childhood friends and I became disconnected early in our adult lives. None of our Parents taught us the secrets of relationships, unyielding love, trusting and caring for one another. Case in Point your eight year old is complaining about his best friend , no better time to introduce him to the subject of Relationships.