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A Mother’s Love For Her Children

I have two beautiful children ages 5 and 7. Brandon is the older and Amelya is the princess in the family. They are both bright, gifted, healthy and unique in their own ways. Both will fight over a lousy piece of old plastic bag and the next minute, are the best of friends.

Such are the antics I see and the wonders of being in their natural selves. We adults need to open up our eyes to look and learn from our children. Children have no prejudices, and they don’t pretend like we do. And most of all, children are pure and speak from their hearts.

I wonder how so many people can be so cruel to children. Why? Why do they do what they do? In our own home country and around the world, we read in the newspapers and watch the TV reporting abuses on these innocent children. We hear of the pain and abuse they are forced to experience from perverted adults. Sadly, many times these pain and abuses were caused by people the trusted most. Their own family and carers.

How would you and I feel if someone abuses us for reasons we do not know? Try putting ourselves in that child’s environment. How would you feel in your heart? I know I would be terrified. I would be confused. I would want to run away to a safe place. Any place would be better than there but just wouldn’t know how to do it and where to run.

Studies have shown that the abuser is more often than not a person who has been abused himself or herself when she/ he was small. Now that they have become adults, they carry the scars and hurts in them and are finding out how it feels like to be the one inflicting pain on someone else. This way, they believe they can ‘heal’ and justify their heidous cruel behaviour.

As a mother myself, there is nothing I won’t do to keep my children safe. To protect them from harms way. I feed them. I clean them. I clothe them. I talk with them in a manner I would want them to understand a good two-way conversation between two people. With manners and politeness and in turn, become the kind of adults I would them to become one day. I wish for them a peaceful and beautiful life with love and care. But I know deep in my heart, this will only put them in a protective bubble that only exist in an imaginary world.

One day, their eyes will open up. Like us adults now, they too will see the ‘real’ world we all live in. The real world where people will only go after what is important to them and what they think will benefit themselves. Often, with little regards to others, if at all.

But for now, I will cherish what little time I still have left with their innocent years. I will always treasure these moments while their eyes are still pure, their hearts not tainted with pain and sufferings. I will always hold their hands and smell their cheeks and hold them close to me. Because I am mother. Because my children have given me the gift I did not ask. This gift opened up my eyes to see what beauty means. What true love means. And what sacrifices means. I thank them in return. I am grateful for this gift.

Thank you both, my beautiful darlings. For now, I will do my part loving and protecting you. Whilst the pain and sufferings continues in our world today inflicting pain and abuses on other children. We must stand together and tell these abusers to stop. Stop and look at themselves. What they are doing will never bring them any help nor healing. Instead, they shoud get help or talk with someone who can help them about their problems. Maybe one day, our world will be a better, safer place for our children and their children.

5 Tips To Help Parents Handle Aggression in Kids

Having behavior problems in kids is a timeless type of trouble that is natural but can be dealt with by being patient and prepared. Although dealing with an aggressive or disobedient young child can be very tough, it does not need to be so hard that you fail to help them. There are some extremely effective strategies available to you that will make your life easier.

If your children are allowing themselves to get out of control they really are not yet capable of understanding that this kind of behavior is inappropriate. The proper understanding of their own emotions are still developing. So these outbursts are more or less a symptom of the maturity process.

If any child engages an adult with inappropriate behavior, nine times out of ten they are trying to tell them something or just vying for attention. You will need to do what you can to try to find that underlying issue. This is not always the case but statistically it does point to the majority of kids. Lacking the developmental social skills to truly express themselves; these outbursts are not only natural, but also very normal.

Experts dealing with disobedient children can help you and your family learn to anticipate the cause, or at the very least prepare you to know what to look for. Once you learn to dig a little deeper and to handle the situation with an objective but caring manner you will find it easier to ‘outlast‘ your child’s misbehavior.

Here are some aggression tips to help you with handling behavior problems in kids. Especially those who have anger issues or are a bit aggressive.

1. Giving them a punching bag or pillow to hit is sometimes effective. It cannot hurt that is for sure. The idea of providing them an outlet begins working almost immediately. It is therapeutic, productive, can be lots of fun and good exercise. This is so good for them and in so many ways it can be hard to name them all.

One way it helps is through raising levels of endorphins in the brain. Also raising other needed chemicals in the brain making them much happier. When they get out some of that unchecked energy they feel more relaxed and are in a better mood.

2. Naming the emotions can help by identifying what aggressive children are feeling and why they may be feeling this way. By narrowing down the source it can measure up as some amount of control, this adds comfort and confidence.

Helping your child learn how to label his or her feelings will increase their self-control, self-esteem, self-awareness, as well as the aforementioned comfort and confidence. This will take away that empty feeling of making no progress. Once you begin to see them grow in the right direction due to your efforts you will feel much better.

3. Keeping your cool is very important. It can be the reason in the storm of confusion. It is always a good idea to take a step back whenever you are dealing with an out of control or especially difficult child. So being the anchor will keep you and your child in good hands.

They can sometimes deliberately push all the right buttons, in order to elicit an inappropriate response. This must never be allowed to happen. Do your best to always stay calm and if you ever feel that you are having trouble in this area, leave the room if possible.

If not PLEASE do not wait! Call someone right away even if you only need to vent to them or have them take over for one hour. They are more than likely glad to help and it will do you a world of good.

4. Remember is a tip. Whenever you are handling a youngster that is behaving badly, remember that they are doing so as a means of seeking your attention. In their mind, any attention is better than no attention at all. So do your best to ignore negative behavior.

Also keep in mind that this will not do any good unless you balance it out by paying attention to them when they are behaving well. Encouraging good behavior with praise and attention while discouraging negative behavior with no attention at all will really go a long way. It Really WORKS!

5. Sometimes an aggressive child can really push your buttons and your emotions will get the best of you. This happens to the best of us. Almost every parent has a breaking point and it is nothing to worry about if you keep yourself healthy and take breaks when possible.

So long as you do not blow-up completely, and if you do remember you are only human. Us this as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and about parenting. Just be sure to acknowledge the incident in the presence of your child, openly apologize, learn from your mistake and move on.

Also, discuss how you are taking responsibility for your mistake even though it was a reaction to your child’s behavior. Aggressive children need to know and learn that they are not alone in dealing with their frustrations. Show them you care and tell them you will always be there for them.

Explain to them how you once had to learn to control your emotions too and that nobody is perfect. Identify with them in any way you can no matter how long it takes. Never give up and before you know it you will have gotten through to them..

In order to encourage good behavior it is useful to ignore the bad. But sometimes you just have to let them vent. This can be done without showing them any attention yet at the same time keeping an eye on them. Just make sure they do not hurt anything or anyone, including themselves.

Handling behavior problems in kids is one of the more challenging aspects of parenting but it does not have to be overwhelming. There are treasure troves of free information and affordable systems & strategies available to you. All geared toward helping you to change your child’s negative behavior. This is information that is now available on the internet today that was not available in the past. So making good use of it will dramatically help you with your parenting endeavors.

Keeping Youth Out of Trouble

There are innumerable ways of youth getting into trouble in today’s world. Youth are exposed to the media, the internet, and easily available drugs and addictive substances. While hormonal problems leading to mood swings in young people can be corrected using medication, social troubles are not easy to solve. The old saying that prevention is better than cure applies to troubled youth and parents should swing into action the moment signs of trouble appear to nip the problem in the bud.

Encouraging sporting activity in which the adolescent shows a talent or general interest is one way of keeping him or her away from trouble. Excelling in the sporting activity will keep the adolescent out of trouble and help them to make an effort to beat the competition. Team sports help the adolescent to have a healthy interaction with peers in a positive way. Encouraging baseball in inner city schools helped to keep youth out of troubled and gave them a positive outlook in some cities. Parents should however steer clear of pressuring the child to overwork at the sport or take up a sport that does not interest the adolescent because this may have an adverse effect on the child.

Parents have found that encouraging religion and spiritual activity in children is another way of keeping children out of trouble. Encouraging children to join volunteer church activities, Sunday school or charity programs will keep adolescents out of trouble. It will also help interaction with other children who belong to the same congregation who will be a positive influence on the child. Children will be subject to supervision of other religious adults who will be able to give proper spiritual direction to the child.

Nurturing talent is another way by which parents can keep adolescents out of trouble. Encouraging musical talent or a talent in art, dancing or developing a hobby is a method of encouraging adolescents to find a positive direction in life and keep them out of trouble. Talent development increases self esteem and gives a meaning and purpose to the life of the teenager. However, parents must allow the teenager to achieve goals at a steady pace. Forcing too much achievement may again have a negative effect on the child.

Positive parenting will keep adolescents out of trouble. Parents should lead regulated lifestyles and set examples for adolescents to follow. They should discipline the adolescent without being dictatorial. Parents should be friends and mentors of their adolescents and make every effort to spend quality time with them. They should monitor the adolescent closely and seek medical and psychological help if the need arises.

Encouraging volunteering is a method of keeping adolescents out of trouble. Local governments and social service organizations have community service programs which parents could sign up for with their adolescents to encourage meaningful activity in their spare time. Reading to the elderly or the visually challenged is one activity that many adolescents find rewarding.

To prevent adolescents from becoming troubled adolescents, parents should take preventive action and make sure that the young boy or girl becomes a well adjusted adolescent and adult.

5 Parenting Tips For Young Kids in Trouble

Is your sweet child getting in trouble? Do you worry about the kids he plays with? Inside you’ll find 5 parenting tips for helping kids stay out of trouble.

Childhood Wisdom and Big Trouble:

A 10-year-old boy named Joe and his 8-year-old brother, Danny, fought like cats and dogs. The older boy used his muscles. The younger boy used words.

Just as Joe raised his fist, Danny noticed Joe’s armband with the letters WWJD. He pointed to it and yelled “What would Jesus do?” Joe slipped off the armband and prepared for battle.

My Newsletter Subscriber’s Son Gets into Trouble:

A mother recently asked me to offer parenting tips on how to keep her son away from a troublesome friend. “My 6-year-old and his friend get into trouble at school,” she wrote. “I’ve tried so many different ways to separate the two boys. I’ve even asked my daughter to let me know if my son is playing with the other boy. Nothing seems to work.”

Parenting Tips for Keeping Your Child Out of Trouble:

First Tip -Talk to the other boys parents. Find out if they are concerned about their son’s getting in trouble too. Make sure you do this politely. Avoid blaming the parents or their boy. Put your heads together and come up with a helpful solution.

Second Tip -Talk to the teacher. Ask the teacher for some helpful ideas. If you all agree put the ideas into action.

Third Tip – Be careful about having your daughter report to you. This might put a rift between your children. She could be disliked for being a tattletale.

Fourth Tip – Get the other boy’s parents permission to talk to the two boys together. Create a chart for each. At the top write a positive goal. Make it the same goal for each. The goal needs to be the opposite of the kind of trouble they get into. Give them a positive reward for each day they behave well and get a positive report from the teacher.

Make sure that reward involves you. Consider rewarding them by reading a book of their choice, doing a fun art project together, playing ball etc. As they behave better reward them every 3-5 days until they don’t need the chart anymore.

Fifth Tip -If nothing else works, and there are 2 first grade classrooms, ask the principal to put your son in a different class.

Special thanks to the mother who requested this article. Many parents face this same problem. I hope your request helps other parents too.

Parenting Tips Conclusion:

Raising children isn’t easy. When your child’s playmate leads him into trouble, it makes parenting more difficult. Sometimes you’ll have to stick your neck out and ask for help from teachers, clergy, and other parents. When you respectfully ask for help, you’re likely to find the needed solution.

How to Stay Out of Trouble

There are different ways to stay out of trouble. Some are simple to do, and some are not. Some important ways to do so are setting goals, pursuing an education, choosing positive friends, and following the law. Those are ways to stay out of trouble.

Setting goals helps by giving you a positive habit to focus on. Some ways to do so are joining the United States service such as the Navy, Air Force, Army, National Guard, or Marines. These ways help because you can earn scholarships, money, and they give you the chance to be all you can be.

Another way is by choosing positive friends. It’s important because choosing positive friends helps you make better decisions, and they stick by you through bad times. Having friends gives you positive feelings that there is always somebody on your side. Whenever you have someone tempting you to do bad things, call on a friend to help you say “no”.

Last but not least, one of the most important factors in staying out of trouble is to pursue an education. Pursuing an education in today’s society is important because nothing is free, and nothing is available without a high school diploma, or at least a GED. If you follow this factor you can go to college, and be anything you want to be, just put forth 100% effort.

To wrap my conversation up, follow these guidelines, and life will be a whole lot better. Pursuing an education, setting goals, and choosing positive friends will make life easier. It will prevent life from being on the hard side. So, take my advice and do the right thing.

Always remember to listen to and obey your mother and father or your guardians the ones that are raising you because they are the one that really care for you. And they will only guide you into the way that is best for you.

Playground Equipment Helps Children Learn, Stay Out of Trouble

Children on break for the summer or a holiday may find themselves bored at home. While TV shows and video games may occupy their time, those may not be the healthiest options. The Center for Disease Control (CDC) recommends that kids get at least an hour of exercise a day. One option to help meet that goal is playground equipment at school or the park. Running around a few days a week allows boys and girls to get the necessary cardio they need to stay healthy. In addition, they can strengthen and tone their muscles on things like the pull-up station or monkey bars, and burn calories in the process. Many newer components are designed to match the requirements of the President’s Fitness Council Challenge.

With school playground equipment, the potential for trouble declines. School administrators say they have noticed a decrease in any problems, due to students playing by the rules, cooperating, and just having fun. With playgrounds being easily accessible, it keeps students safe in more ways than one. First, it keeps them off the streets where they may find trouble or temptation from gang activity and other crime. Second, by being on a playground, they can avoid from other potential dangers, such as being hit by a car. In fact, a 2009 study revealed that children who get a minimum of 15 minutes recess had fewer behavior issues in the classroom.

Newer playground equipment also lets children learn while they may not even realize it. Many now feature colors and shapes, while others include games to stimulate a child’s mind, or even exhibits featuring everyday lessons found in the classroom. These games test a child’s skills in many subjects like math and science. Therefore, he or she is able to have fun, get exercise, and learn all at the same time. Something else playgrounds may teach children without them knowing it is how to be accepting of others. Newer school playground equipment is also compliant with the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), allowing those in wheelchairs or with limited mobility enjoy the fun as well. Some are also green-friendly, often made from recycled materials.

Playground equipment also promotes children’s safety. Many surfaces are lined with rubber mulch, which as opposed to traditional concrete, helps minimize the injuries a child endures from a fall. Many also include shaded areas, which protect kids from the heat and sun, as well as heat-related illnesses that could come from too much exposure, i.e. heat exhaustion or heatstroke.